Would you be upset if your Matron of Honor is planning to get pregnant before your wedding?
My friend is getting married fall of 08 and her Matron of Honor just announced that she is trying to get pregnant now with her second baby. My friend who is getting married is upset that she would plan this before her wedding, she feels she should wait until after her wedding. I was really surprised by her. I know she is concerned about her Matron of Honor finding a dress that will fit her, but I can’t believe she wants her to put her life on hold for over a year. What do you think, would you want your Matron of Honor to hold of on any babies during your wedding planning?
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As long as she can stand up(or even sit) at the alter, I don’t see the problem.
just because she is trying doesn’t mean she is going to get pregnant right away.
i have not had this problem, but as long as she still fit in the dress on the day, i would be find with it. things can get altered.
No I wouldn’t be upset.I would be happy for her.You can’t put your life on hold just because someone is getting married.The future bride is being crazy.
It depends on the person. You know, some people WOULD casually on purpose happen to be preggers at their best friends/sister’s big day. They want attention.
But if it’s a normal person doing normal family planning, I think the bride wants all the attention.
I think your friend is very wrong. And the woman who is trying for another child has every right to. The only one she needs to consult about having children, and when is her husband.
Nobody should put their life on hold for ANYONE else’s wedding, no matter who it is. Your bride friend needs to pull out of the planning process a bit and realize the world doesn’t revolve around her wedding.
I would never ask anyone to put THEIR life on hold for MY wedding. I think that is just a little selfish. They do make maternity dresses.. and besides, she is the Matron of honor…
No way!!! the plan is if she can’t make it I’ll have a backup that’s what my sister did.
I would want my friend to schedule her family planning to suit her needs and priorities, not mine. If she was still able to be in my wedding, then that would be great. If she felt she needed to bow out, then so long as she didn’t wish me ill, I’d just be delighted for her.
No, I would consider it incredibly rude and presumptuous to ask someone to put her plans for a baby on hold for a year in order to make sure she’s slim for my wedding day.
Oh, and I had a pregnant bridesmaid. Okay, she found out a couple weeks before the wedding, but I wouldn’t have cared if she was on the verge of giving birth so long as she was happy.
No, in fact I’d be thrilled that a friend I loved enough to put in such a position was going to have a baby. Your friend is a selfish, egotistical bride-zilla and should get over herself. Life doesn’t revolve around her wedding.
A lot can change between now and Fall ’08. The matron of honor could have a child before then.
She obviously chose this person because they are close friends. If it is going to kill her to have someone pregnant in the wedding, she should confront her so she can find someone else. But the matron shouldn’t have to postpone her pregnancy.
People freak out too much when planning weddings. The goal should be to bring family and friends together to celebrate a wonderful day. It shouldn’t be to micromanage everyone’s lives so you have the so-called perfect wedding.
I think your friend sounds like a Bridezilla – thinking the world is supposed to revolve around HER. that’s absolutely rediculous. She chose her matron of honor because she is important to her – that shouldn’t change because she’s pregnant. I’ve seen lots of weddings that included pregnant women….no big deal. Her attitude implies that a pregnant woman isn’t pretty or something. They actually even make bridesmaids dresses now for expecting women!
OMG, your friend sounds like a selfish b1tch… sorry! How about she changes her wedding date to next month instead? Wow, I can’t believe anyone can even be this selfish. If I was her MOH, I would have bowed out and told her she was on her own.
A bride has NO right to ask that her wedding party put their reproductive life on hold. That is silly and selfish to expect. I would not want my MOH to put her life on hold.
Bridezilla! How selfish is she that she wants her matron of honor to put her life on hold?!?! Isn’t marriage about the family? Doesn’t the matron of honor represent something like what this woman wants when she is finally married? The wedding is one day of your life-an important one-but one day. Creating a family goes on forever. I can’t believe how crazy and selfish some brides can be….
Nah… if and when she has her baby is her business. If she has planned to have a child it’s wrong to ask her to plan it around your wedding.
I actually just recently went through the same situation.. Except, my matron of honor told me she would wait until after the wedding before she would get pregnant.. Low and behold, she got pregnant and her due date was 2 days before the wedding, now ask any bride, but you would be totally stressed out if you matron of honor could not show for your wedding, or what if she went into labor during the ceremony… When you get married it is suppose to be your day and your day only!
My day ended up pretty good, she was there and ended up being 3 weeks late to have her baby. And now my husband and I are the god parents…
Maybe the Matron of honor should step down, or the Bride should say something to her! Good luck!
I don’t think it’s wrong for her to be upset.
1st of all the wedding isn’t until next Fall meaning that she could have had the baby by then. Even if that isn’t the case Your friend can’t ask a person to put their whole life on hold for over a year for her wedding day. That is selfish and rude.
Tell your friend to get a grip and realize the world doesn’t revolve around her.
That’s very selfish. I can’t believe people are like that. If she is her best friend she should support and be happy for her!?!?
i think they’re kinda both in the wrong with this situation. on one hand, the bride has no right to dictate when another person can try to get pregnant, that’s just outrageous bridezilla behavior there. however, the matron of honor shouldn’t have accepted that honor when she is planning on getting pregnant in the first place, because the moh is a very demanding position that requires a lot of time, money, and effort. aside from the dress fitting issue, it’s also likely that once she gets further along in the pregnancy, she’s not going to feel up to taking care of her wedding duties, because she’ll be focusing on herself and the baby (as she should.) babies always take priority with new mothers, so i think it would be best for all parties involved if she either demoted herself to a regular bridesmaid or just not be in the wedding party and take on another role that doesn’t involve a specific attire and a lot of her time.
Your friend is selfish.
Um, I think that the bride has totally lost it.
Who is she to tell people when they can and can’t have babies.
I have seen both sides of this arguement. I was a bridesmaid for my best friend and her maid oh honor had a baby 1 MONTH before the wedding. It was a disaster. The baby was being breast fed, so she had to come everywhere with us. Pictures was the worst. Car seat in the wedding van! The baby was very good, but it was still very tough. Also, we had spagetti strapped dresses and she had to wear a maternity bra underneath it. It looked terrible in all of the pictures. If I had been the maid of honour and been in that situation, I would have asked the bride if I could bow out and have one o the other bridesmaids take over. The bride ended up being quite unhappy with the entire situation. On the othe hand, my best friend (who was the bride at the other wedding) was trying to get pregnant when I asked her to be my maid of honour. If she had gotten pregnant that day, she would have been about 6 months pregnant at our wedding. I told her that I love her and she is the only person I want standing up for me. If I had to, we could cut the bellly out of her dress and put black spandex there instead! (FYI – she did not end up being pregnant). One other thing to keep in mind is if someone would be available to look after the child. Is there a husband or boyfriend in the picture? But to sum this all up, I do not think it is right for the bride to put restrictions on friendships like that. Obviously she chose that woman to be her maid of honour for a reason. She should not have to put her lifeo n hold for one day. Also, if it is that important that she have a babdy right away, she should maybe bow out of her maid of honour duties. I hope this helped!
That is quite selfish of your friend. The Matron of Honor has a life, and it doesn’t revolve around the Bride-To-Be. The Matron of Honor should make whatever decision is right for her, regardless of the upcoming wedding.
Your friend should also keep in mind that there are some adorable maternity dresses for weddings. The Matron of Honor could get a lovely dress even if she is about to have a child. Her dress could be the same color as the other bridesmaids, so that it wouldn’t look out-of-place.
I wouldn’t mind at all if one of my bridesmaids was a part of my wedding with a beautiful baby bump!
Good heavens. People’s lives don’t stop because someone’s getting married! How completely selfish of the bride to expect her friend to postpone one of the most important aspects of her own life because the bride finds it inconvenient! This one takes the cake. Sheesh!
This bride is very selfish – everyone else should put their life on hold until HER wedding is over? Get a life.
I wouldn’t live my life for anyone other than myself. If the Matron wants to try and have a baby, then so be it. If the prospective bride doesn’t like it, oh well, get someone else…
she can still do the duties of matron of honor being pregnant. if she is concerned about finding a dress get a very large size and they can hem it. (My friend was very pregnant when she got married–found a huge dress and then fixed it for her size.
Depending on when she gets pregnant–there may not be a problem.
Gee that is so egocentric of the bride. I guess she is a true Bridezilla on a power trip.
Her personal life is none of the bride’s business. There’s nothing wrong with having a pregnant MOH.
I agree, I mean it would throw a kink in some things, but not EVERYONES life revolves around the wedding and its kinda crappy of her to expect that. This is this woman’s family, something she lives with day in and day out and will forever, and when you feel the timing is right for another child you kinda have to go for it in my opinion. A baby is this woman’s LIFE, the wedding, as big a deal as it is is 1 day and you can’t expect people to put off LIFE for 1 day. The people you pick for that kind of position are the closest to you, and how could you expect such a close friend to forgo all her happiness b/c you might have a little more trouble with a dress…I sure wouldn’t!
Wow…how completely selfish of your friend. Everyone else doesn’t have to put their lives on hold just because she’s getting married!
If she were unmarried, I might be worried…But for pete’s sake, she’s a grown woman, who’s trying to put together a family with her husband! Besides that, if the wedding is over a year away, she may give birth long before the wedding day comes around!
They make all kinds of great dresses that can accommodate pregnant bellies…Your friend should have nothing to worry about!
This was actually going to happen to me. My MOH has been putting off getting preggo for years. They have finally decided to get prego. She told me ahead of time so I made sure to find a dress that would fit her belly if she did get preggo. Then my bro called and his wife was preggo!! (She is a bridemaid) Lucky I had planned for this! Unfortunatley my bro’s wife lost the baby and my MOH hasn’t been able to get preggo. If they get preggo now they will not (Or barely) be showing by Oct. Anyway, my point? I was happy for them to bring a life into this beautiful world and I made sure it would work in the wedding if they did. I feel it is selfish to ask someone to wait. Children are a blessing no matter when they come.
Wow your friend sounds alittle rude. I would not change the timeing of a child around a friends wedding. So what if she has a preg maid of honor. I’ll prob be preg when my little sister gets married. I dont think that should matter.And one of my best friends will prob be preg for my wedding. And thats fine with me. Why put your life on hold for a freinds wedding?
Ok, weddings are important, but not stop your life and put your family plans on hold for over a year important. That’s ridiculous. What if the MOH told the bride “I plan on getting pregnant soon, but I’d like to be there, so put off the wedding until after the baby is born and I have time to shed that extra baby weight. Thanks.” She would not have it. It’s crazy to think that’s a reasonable request. Talk about self-centered.
Just because she asked her to be the MOH, does not mean the MOH should put her life on hold.
If my MOH or bridesmaids wanted to get pregnant, I would be more than happy for them. It will change some plans, like dress sizes, but other than that I think it would be ok.
Your friend just can’t expect other people to totally drop their lives just because of her wedding. She shouldn’t be such a bridezilla. The matron of honor is not going to steal the bride’s thunder. Nowadays, you can buy maternity bridesmaids dresses. (at davids bridal they even let you wear a little pad that lets you know how you will look so far along.) Your friend should be happy for the girl planning to get pregnant…just as im sure the soon to be pregnant girl is elated to have a friend thats in love and getting married.
Why should she hold off on having children. What assurances would the MOH have that the bride will actually get married, esp. if it’s a year away?
Wow, people really think their weddings are more important than their friends having babies???? I cannot think of anything more selfish than that, the wedding is not the be all and end all of life, if I was a MOH and my friend told me not to get pregnant I’d tell her to stick her MOH job where the sun doesn’t shine, I cannot believe how egotistical that is!!!
I think your friend is being unreasonable. Nobody else should have to put their lives on hold because of someone’s wedding. Now, maybe if she was due at the time of the wedding I can see the bride being a bit upset (in case the MOH may not be able to attend, etc) but as long as she can stand for the photos and during the ceremony, why not?
I understand the brides feelings, but she is also being selfish to expect the MOH to put her baby plans on hold just for her wedding. Would she do that for someone else? I doubt it.